TED演讲之败中求胜 解读羞耻(3)
The first is: vulnerability is not weakness.
第一件事，脆弱不是弱点。
And that myth is profoundly dangerous.
并且这种错误理解非常危险。
Let me ask you honestly — and I’ll give you this warning, I’m trained as a therapist, so I can out-wait you uncomfortably
我想诚恳地请问大家 — 先给个提醒，作为一个受过专业训练的治疗师，我知道你们会感觉不太自在
— so if you could just raise your hand that would be awesome
— 所以你们只要举手就很好了
— how many of you honestly, when you’re thinking about doing or saying something vulnerable think, “God, vulnerability is weakness.”
— 坦诚地讲有多少人， 当你们想到做一些脆弱的事或说一些脆弱的话的时候，会觉得：天啊，脆弱就是软弱，这就是软弱？
How many of you think of vulnerability and weakness synonymously?
有多少人认为脆弱和软弱是一回事？
The majority of people. Now let me ask you this question:
大部分人。现在我们这样来问：
This past week at TED, how many of you, when you saw vulnerability up here, thought it was pure courage?
在TED刚过去的这周，有多少人，当你们看到（我在这儿讲）脆弱的时候，认为那是纯粹的勇气？
Vulnerability is not weakness. I define vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty.
脆弱不是软弱。我把脆弱定义为：情感的风险、流露，以及不确定性。
It fuels our daily lives. And I’ve come to the belief — this is my 12th year doing this research
它驱动我们的日常生活。并且我已经达成了这样一种信念 — 我已经研究这个课题12年了
— that vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage — to be vulnerable, to let ourselves be seen, to be honest.
— 那就是，脆弱是对我们的勇气最精确的衡量 — 保留脆弱，开放自我，保持真诚。
One of the weird things that’s happened is, after the TED explosion, I got a lot of offers to speak all over the country
有个奇怪的事就是 在TED这个演讲轰动之后， 我收到全国各地的很多邀请
— everyone from schools and parent meetings to Fortune 500 companies.
— 从学校家长会 到世界500强的公司。
And so many of the calls went like this, “Dr. Brown, we loved your TED talk.
很多电话都是这样的： “嗨，布朗博士，我们喜欢您的TED演讲。
We’d like you to come in and speak. We’d appreciate it if you wouldn’t mention vulnerability or shame.”
我们想邀请您来讲一讲。 但有一件事 希望您不要提到脆弱或者羞耻。”
演讲简介：羞耻感是一种不可言说的流行病，是许多支离破碎的行为背后的秘密。在早先关于脆弱的演讲得到病毒式的传播之后，布琳.布朗继续探寻当人们与羞耻感狭路相逢时会发生什么。言语间闪耀着她特有的幽默、人文关怀以及脆弱。