Now, in the early days of my lecture, when I used to talk about risk, that is all I would say.
But people would sometimes try to ask me a question during the Q&A period.
And I say "try to ask my a question" because it would often come out in a kind of garbled and uncomfortable way, and it took me a while to figure out what was going on.
It would go something like this, they'd say, "Yeah, but isn't it risky because, you know, um, uh, when two men um, you know it's risky because uh the parts don't fit and um uh and the parts don't fit because uh when two men um and the parts…"
And they'd go on and on doing this for a while.
And finally, I would interrupt them and say, "Excuse me, are you trying to ask me about anal sex?"
"Oh my God, he said 'anal sex' in Texas! Arrest him!"
I mean, it was a bad scene.
But, in fact, they were trying to ask my about anal sex, and I recognized that there was an interesting phenomenon going on.
When people think about homosexuality, they think about male homosexuality.
When they would think about male homosexuality, they would think about anal sex.
When they would think about anal sex, they had this argument in their minds that the "parts don't fit," and I realized that if I was going to address people's actual concerns, I would have to address this argument.
So, I actually have two responses to this argument.
First response: yes, they do.
How do I know? Well, because if they didn't, people would try it, it wouldn't work, and then they'd go do something else.
I mean what's that scenario going to look like?
"Oh my God, the parts don't fit! What are we going to do? I don't know! Do you want to go bowling? Sure, this isn't working!"
I would actually have people during the Q&A portion of my program, I'm not making this up, there it is, "Well of course it's wrong because…
And, I want to say that if you're doing it this way, you're doing it wrong.
What do you want me to tell you?
Gay people aren't stupid.
We don't sit there saying, "Oh my God, the parts don't fit! What are we going to do?"
I began to understand why people always focus on male homosexuality, right?
What's lesbianism going to look like?
At this point, we don't have an argument anymore.
We have a panic, right?
This brings me to the second, somewhat more serious response to the "parts don't fit" argument.
Which is this, suppose you have an argument against a particular sexual practice, say anal sex.
What do you have?
You've got an argument against that practice-which is not tantamount to an argument against homosexuality.
Because not all homosexual people engage in anal sex, as I've mentioned, there are many different experiences, not only homosexual people engage in anal sex.
This point also surprises some of my audiences.
This is a great story about Strom Thurmond.