In fact, I want to take this a step further.
I want to say not only does this argument scapegoat gay people and make that sort of mistake, it actually is a greater threat to the family than what it's trying to fight.
Let me tell you another story.
Many years ago when I lived in New York, there was a guy, Joe.
He had a wife and several small kids, and they went to my church.
And, one night, I saw Joe out at a gay bar.
At first, I wasn't even sure if it was him because, how could that be Joe? He has a wife and kids.
And, but every time I looked over him, he do this. It's kind of conspicuous in a gay bar.
So, I went over to him and I tapped him on the shoulder and said, "Joe, what are you doing here?"
And Joe, who was about ten years older than I am, explained to me that when he was growing up, being gay was just not an option, and he felt a lot of pressure to "do the right thing," which, for him, meant marrying and having children, but it wasn't really working for him.
So, he was living this double life.
Now, I don't want to condone what he's doing there; I think that's a terrible thing.
On the other hand, I've never walked in his shoes.
I don't know the kinds of struggles he went through.
I don't really know enough details of the situation to make any real kind of informed commentary on the specific situation, but I do want to say this we would have fewer such difficult cases if we would simple recognize that heterosexual marriage is not necessarily right for everyone.
And we don't do anyone any favors by pressuring them into situations that they're not suited for.
Don't do gay people any favors.
Don't do their spouses any favors.
Don't do their kids any favors.
Okay, I want to move to the fourth and final argument that I'm going to look at this evening-the argument that homosexuality is wrong because it's unnatural.
Now this could mean a lot of different things.
What is unnatural? I mean clothing is unnatural in some sense.
Buildings are unnatural in some sense, but we're not doing this naked and outside. Be thankful.
So what do we mean when we say that homosexuality is unnatural, and, also, why does that matter?
Why, you know it, unnatural? So what? So we need to specify some morally relevant sense of unnatural.
Let me look at a few different things that people might mean when they say this.
One thing they might mean is that most people don't do that; it's statistically abnormal.
Well, that's true. Most people don't engage in homosexual relationships.
Then again, most people don't play the mandolin, most people don't pilot planes, most people don't read Sanskrit.
I mean, the fact that most people don't do something doesn't make it wrong.
So, that doesn't seem to be morally relevant.
Well, what else might we mean?
We might mean animals don't do that.
There was a legislator when I lived in Texas, Warren Chisum, who used to love this argument.
He said, "Homosexuality is unnatural! Animals don't do that!"