And a lot of the time the question of parenthood is,父母常常面对的问题是what do we validate in our children,孩子在哪些方面值得肯定and what do we cure in them?哪些方面需要治愈？Jim Sinclair, a prominent autism activist, said,有名的自闭症专家，吉姆·辛克莱说，&quotWhen parents say &#39I wish my child did not have autism,&#39&quot当父母说 &#39我希望我的孩子没有

And I said to her, &quotWhat do you think you did我对她说， &quot你觉得你做了什么that helped him to emerge as this charming, accomplished, wonderful person?&quot帮他成为一个有魅力、成功、精彩的人吗?&quotAnd she said, &quotWhat did I do? I loved him, that&#39s all.她说，&quot我做了什么？我爱他，就这样Clinton just always had that light in him.克林顿一

Should she say, &quotYou&#39re just like everyone else but a little bit shorter?&quot她应该说“你和其他人一样，只是矮了点儿”？Or should she try to construct some kind of dwarf identity,还是去试图建立某种小矮人身份认同get involved in the Little People of America,加入美国小个子联盟become aware of what was happening for dwarfs?开始了解矮人生活圈的那些事？And I

I thought a lot about the mother of one disabled child I had seen,我想起我见过的一个残疾孩子的母亲a severely disabled child who died through caregiver neglect.这个有严重残疾的孩子，因为照料不周而去世And when his ashes were interred, his mother said,当他的骨灰被安葬的时候，他的母亲说&quotI pray here for forgiveness for having been twice robbed,&quot我在这