On Aging -- Maya Angelou 上了年纪--玛雅·安吉洛 When you see me sitting quietly like a sack left on the shelf 当你看到我就那么静静地坐着，如同一个空空的麻袋颓然垂放在架子上 Don't think I need your chattering 可别觉得我需要你的唠叨 I'm listening to myse
This is not my opinion. These are the facts. 这不是我的观点。这是事实。 We know that 80 percent of life's most defining moments take place by age 35. 我们知道一个人的一生中的80%的最重要的时刻发生在35岁。 That means that eight out of 10 o
Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high. 好吧，刚才那听起来可能有一点轻浮，但是别搞错，在这里筹码非常高。 When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure
Second, I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated. 其次，我告诉Emma城市部落被高估了。 Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport, 找好朋友来搭车至机场很棒， but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-mind
When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychotherapy client. 当我20几岁时，我见到了我的第一个需要精神疗法的病人。 I was a Ph.D. student in clinical psychology at Berkeley. 当时我是一个在伯克利大学读临床心理学的Ph.D学生。 She was a 26-year-old w
As a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood. 作为一种文化，我们把实际上是成人期中最重要的一个十年列为不重要的东西。 Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not qu
That's what psychologists call an "Aha!" moment. 这就是心理学家们所说的“原来如此！”瞬间。 That was the moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20. 在那一瞬间，我明白了三十岁并不是新的二十岁。 Yes, people settle down later than they used to, but
Well one day, Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap, and she sobbed for most of the hour. 有一天，Emma走进来，把头放在膝盖上，然后哭了近一个小时。 She'd just bought a new address book, and she'd spent the morning fil
