编者按: 积极主动的思考对我们所接触到的人具有巨大的影响力。那些成功提高思考能力的人会充实自己，丰富自己的人生。 For Success in Life Thinking is necessary if you want to successd in life. people fear that thinking may upset their comfort and self-satifacti
编者按: 尽心而尽责地完成一件事会为你带来真正的快乐，而尽责也并不一定是做苦工。为人服务是一项最成功的投资。 The Soundest Investment of All by C. Jared Ingersoll I feel very presumptuous and uncomfortable about trying to explain out loud the things I b
The newspaper I previously worked for employs a very friendly receptionist. All receptionists are supposed to be friendly, but Connie Abbott has such a positive tone, she could brighten your day by sa
All of us ought to be able to brace ourselves for the predictable challenges and setbacks that crop up everyday. If we expect that life won’t be perfect, we’ll be able to avoid that impulse to quit. B
It is well that young men should begin at the beginning and occupy the most subordinate positions. Many ofthe leading businessmen of Pittsburgh had a serious responsibility thrust upon them at the ver
And here's what the checklisted childhood looks like. 清单式的生活就是： We keep them safe and sound and fed and watered, and then we want to be sure they go to the right schools, 我们确保他们安全、健康、吃好、喝好，然后期望他们进入好学校
And so with our overhelp, our overprotection and overdirection and hand-holding, 随着我们的过度帮助，过度保护，过度指导和过度关怀， we deprive our kids of the chance to build self-efficacy, which is a really fundamental tenet
And our kids, regardless of where they end up at the end of high school, they're breathless. 我们的孩子，无论高中毕业时结果怎样，都被压得喘不过气。 They're brittle. They're a little burned out. 他们心理脆弱，精疲力竭。 They're a little old
And here's what it feels like to be a kid in this checklisted childhood. 那么在清单式童年中长大的孩子是怎样的呢。 First of all, there's no time for free play. 首先，他们没有自由玩耍的时间。 There's no room in the afternoons, because ev
I have to admit something to you. 我得向你们坦白一些事。 I've got two kids I mentioned, Sawyer and Avery. They're teenagers. 我刚才提到我的两个孩子，Sawyer和Avery，他们都十来岁。 And once upon a time, I think I was treating my Sawye
All right, so you're thinking, chores and love, that sounds all well and good, but give me a break. 好，你可能会想，家务和爱，这听起来很好，但是得了吧。 The colleges want to see top scores and grades and accolades and awards,
And even though we might help them achieve some short-term wins by overhelping 即使我们可以通过这种过度帮助来让他们获得一些短期的成功 like they get a better grade if we help them do their homework, 比如帮他们做作业而拿到的好成绩， they might e
You know, I didn't set out to be a parenting expert. 我从没想过做一个育儿专家。 In fact, I'm not very interested in parenting, per Se. 事实上，我本身对育儿也没什么兴趣。 It's just that there's a certain style of parenting these da
We all know this, and yet, in the checklisted childhood, 我们都已经清楚，在清单式童年中， we absolve our kids of doing the work of chores around the house, 我们不让孩子做家里的杂活， and then they end up as young adults in the wo
There are other reasons why it's perhaps harder now to feel calm than ever before. 还有一些其他理由让我们比过去更难获得平静。 One of these, and it's paradoxical, because it's linked to something that's rather nice, is the
I'm drawn to a lovely quote by St. Augustine in "The City of God," where he says, "It's a sin to judge any man by his post." 我很喜欢圣奥古斯丁在“上帝之城”里的一句话，他说，“以社会地位评价人是一种罪”。 In modern English that would mean
You know, in the Middle Ages, in England, when you met a very poor person, that person would be described as an "unfortunate" 你知道，在中世纪的英国，当你遇见一个非常穷苦的人，你会认为他“不走运”， literally, somebody who had not been
And I went to talk to them about certain of the great tragedies of Western art. 我去找他们聊聊西方艺术中最伟大的几个悲剧故事。 I wanted to see how they would seize the bare bones of certain stories, 我想知道他们会如何露骨地以新闻的方式， if t
Why do so many people reach success and then fail? 为什么有这么多人在成功以后失败？ One of the big reasons is, we think success is a one-way street. 最主要的原因之一是，我们把成功当作一条单行道。 So we do everything that leads up to succes
And the thing about a successful life is that a lot of the time, 常常，我们对一个成功人生的想象， our ideas of what it would mean to live successfully are not our own. 不是来自我们自己，而是来自他人。 They're sucked in from other pe
