I heard a great story recently -- I love telling it -- of a little girl who was in a drawing lesson. 最近我听到一个很不错的故事。我很愿意讲讲这个故事，说的是一个小女孩正在上绘画课。 She was six, and she was at the back, drawing, 小女孩只有六岁，她坐在
I must say that before I went to the U.S., I didn't consciously identify as African. 我不得不强调，在我前往美国之前，我从来没有有意识地把自己当作个非洲人。 But in the U.S., whenever Africa came up, people turned to me. 但在美国的时候，每当人们提到“非
And that's a lot harder for me, because as honored as I am to be here with all of you right now, this is not my natural milieu. 这不是我拿手的事情，但能站在这里向你们说话，能对在坐的各为传达我的想法，是何等荣耀的事情。 So I prepared for moments
So a handshake, or the lack of a handshake, can have us talking for weeks and weeks and weeks. 所以一个握手，或不握手，我们都可以聊上好几个礼拜。 Even the BBC and The New York Times. 即使BBC和纽约时报也不例外。 So obviously when we think
So at the end of my first year at Harvard, a student who had not talked in class the entire semester, who I had said, 所以我在哈佛的第一年结束的时候，我对整个学期在课堂上都没有说话的一个学生说: "Look, you've gotta participate or else you
Now I've been sort of banging on about this for the last couple of months, 在过去的几个月里，我反复在讨论这个问题， and people sometimes say to me, "Well Tim, it's kind of obvious. Obviously trial and error is very impor
So let's say for instance that you're on your way to your best friend's wedding and you're trying to get to the airport and you're stuck in terrible traffic, and you finally arrive at your gate and yo
Well it did. But it turns out, it doesn't remind me of the thing I thought it would; it reminds me constantly of something else instead. 不过确实是只是让我想起的不是我当初希望的；而常常是其他东西，它常常让我想起。 It actually reminds me o
Science has surfaced many, many more indicators. 科学发现了更多的指示标。 We know, for example, we know liars will shift their blink rate, point their feet towards an exit. 比如说，骗子会改变他们眨眼的频率，他们的脚会对着出口。 They will t
This idea is nicely captured by this quote: "Things without all remedy should be without regard; what's done is done." 有句话很好地表达了这个观点：“放开无法挽回的事情；泼出去水收不回来。” And it seems like kind of an admirable philos
But at night when I close my eyes, I can see Christie reaching her hand out to me while I'm driving, and the blood just kept coming out of her mouth. 但是每当晚上我闭上双眼，我可以看见克里斯蒂向我伸出手，我一边开着车，血不停地从她口里冒出来。 And
The third way that I think we can help make our peace with regret is through the passage of time, which, as we know, heals all wounds-except for tattoos, which are permanent. 第三点我想就是通过时间的流逝来慢慢平和地面对遗憾，
Five thousand products -- that's still nothing. 5000个产品，这还没什么。 Five thousand products -- imagine counting every product category in Cesar Hidalgo's data. 5000个产品，想象我们来数塞萨尔·伊达尔戈数据中的每个产品的目录。 Imagine you
When you combine the science of recognizing deception with the art of looking, listening, you exempt yourself from collaborating in a lie. 当你把观察和倾听的艺术与识谎的科学结合起来，你就不会上当受骗。 You start up that path of bei
There are other reasons why it's perhaps harder now to feel calm than ever before. 还有一些其他理由让我们比过去更难获得平静。 One of these, and it's paradoxical, because it's linked to something that's rather nice, is the
From Kansas, I moved on to lovely Arizona, 离开堪萨斯后，我搬到美丽的亚利桑纳州， where I taught in Flagstaff for a number of years, this time with middle school students. 我在Flagstaff小镇教了几年书，这次是教初中的学生。 Luckily, I didn't
So this is a mental picture, I'm describing a mental, vivid picture that enables dancers to make choices for themselves about what to make. 所以这是一个脑海中的画面，我在描述一幅生动的思维图画，让舞者能够自己决定要创造什么。 Okay, you can ope
So I'd like us just to do, we're going to do a little mental dance, a little, in this little one minute, 所以我想让大家来体验一下，我们来做一个小小的思维的舞蹈，不多，只要短短一分钟， so what I'd love you to do is imagine, you can do this
The other thing you need to know about shame is it's absolutely organized by gender. 关于羞耻还需要知道的另一件事，就是它是完全被性别所导向的。 If shame washes over me and washes over Chris, it's going to feel the same. 当羞耻感涌上我的心
I'm drawn to a lovely quote by St. Augustine in "The City of God," where he says, "It's a sin to judge any man by his post." 我很喜欢圣奥古斯丁在“上帝之城”里的一句话，他说，“以社会地位评价人是一种罪”。 In modern English that would mean
