美文阅读 （345）分手后如何克服分离和孤独
After Breaking Up — How To Overcome Separation And Loneliness
分手后–如何克服分离和孤独
1.Accept that it is over, and that you have to move on to another phase in life.
要学会接受这段关系已经结束了，你必须要走向人生的另一个阶段。
After all, one of the biggest failures of people whose partners have walked away from them,
毕竟，那些与伴侣远去的人，最大的失败
is their inability to accept the separation or accept that the person wants to move on.
是他们无法接受分手，无法接受伴侣要离开的事实。
2.Accept that loneliness is normal.
要学会接受寂寞是正常的。
One of the worst things that you can do after a separation is crying yourself out because you are going to be lonely.
你可以在分开之后大哭一场，因为你会觉得很孤单。
It will be ok to cry,
哭是可以的，
but cry only because you can’t believe you had wasted so much of your time with a jerk that was not really worth your time anyway.
但哭只是因为你无法相信你浪费了这么多时间用来哭泣，这又是否真的值得你花时间呢。
3.Do not try to force yourself to forget the person.
不要试图强迫自己忘记别人。
It will be ok to remember them, but focus on the bad
你记住他们是可以的，但是专注于坏的方面
the drama, the pain, the stress, the misery, and the humiliating aspects of that relationship you had with them.
戏剧性、痛苦、压力、不幸，和曾经的羞辱。
And if you did, I would like you to tell me how you did it.
如果你做到了，我希望你能告诉我你是怎么做的。