英语沙龙:幸福的彷徨
The Paradox of Happiness
Do you recall a time—let’s say when you were about 5 years old—what defined happiness back then? Was it getting a puppy for Christmas? Or maybe, you were a child of divorce, and all you wanted was for Mom and Dad to get back together again?
Then as you got older, you were hoping that someone would ask you to the prom that would’ve made your day, maybe your life for the moment. During college, good grades made you happy, but it was short-lived. Because in the real world, you had to look for a job, and competition was stark.
It’s an employer’s world you thought. But then, you got the perfect job—now you could be happy—or could you? Life requires more than just what we want. Inevitably, one must understand to truly find “happiness”, he must make his own happiness “happen”. Sounds a bit redundant, but truthfully, there is no set guidelines that will bring one happiness.
There is no “magic wand” we can wave to bring joy into our lives. Human nature thrives on the thrill of the chase. We dream and we hope for the next big area—it is the grand adventure of living. We are hopeless creatures of comfort. We like having and accumulating things. Whether one admits to it or not, to a certain degree, we all try to “keep up with the Jones”.
We work so we can pay our rents, mortgages,credit card debts, school loans, car payments… the list goes on and on. And at some point, we realize, that aside from having most of what we want, we still aren’t happy. Now since we’ve learned to adapt to new standards which we’ve created for ourselves, we find that we have less time, less patience, less sleep, which equates to more stress, more worry and more aggravation.
So, is happiness honestly just comprised of “things”? Sometimes, we virtually read our lives for not only basic necessities, but for excessive items and services as well. We become so obsessed with finding happiness, that we lose sight of the fact that happiness is within—always. Certainly you’ve heard of individuals trying to “find themselves”, or “rediscover themselves”.
The reason they are attempting these innovative approaches is because they are seeking inner happiness. But the point has been missed: happiness is already there. Disappointments and tragedies in life will come and go, but happiness never leaves you. The human’s capacity to be resilient to difficulties is unfathomable.
We can lose our jobs, but be grateful for our spouses. We can lose our homes to nature, but be thankful to be alive. Happiness is a perception of each individual. We are instincively compelled to find fault in our lives. By human nature, we begin our “fault-finding” mission the moment we’re capable of free-thinking.
It is then, that we lose sense of self-worth and the bigger picture of vitality altogether. Stuck in the patterns of the happiness paradox, we simply cannot find where our happiness has gone. It’s not a matter of bargaining, it’s not an issue of money or fame—instead,happiness is what you resolve to accept.
If we live through optimistic hope; if we dare to dream; if we empower ourselves to fully live; then we have regained our sense of happiness. There is no in-between. There is no other replacement. We only have one physical life to live. We have no choice but to make the most of it.
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