TED演讲之生存故事 布琳·布朗:脆弱的力量(8)
And so then I went back into the research and spent the next couple of years really trying to understand what they,
然后我再度投入到了我的研究中，又花了几年时间，
the whole-hearted, what choices they were making, and what we are doing with vulnerability.
真正试图去理解那些全身心投入生活的人，他们做了怎样的决定，他们是如何应对脆弱的。
Why do we struggle with it so much? Am I alone in struggling with vulnerability? No.
为什么我们为之痛苦挣扎？我是独自在跟脆弱斗争吗？不是。
So this is what I learned. We numb vulnerability — when we’re waiting for the call.
这是我学到的：我们麻痹脆弱–（例如）当我们等待（医生）电话的时候。
It was funny, I sent something out on Twitter and on Facebook that says, “How would you define vulnerability?
好笑的是，我在Twitter微博和Facebook上发布了一条状态，“你怎样定义脆弱？
What makes you feel vulnerable?” And within an hour and a half, I had 150 responses.
什么会让你感到脆弱？”在1个半小时内，我收到了150条回复。
Because I wanted to know what’s out there. Having to ask my husband for help because I’m sick, and we’re newly married; initiating sex with my husband;
因为我想知道大家都是怎么想的。（回复中有）不得不请求丈夫帮忙，因为我病了，而且我们刚结婚；跟丈夫提出要做爱；
initiating sex with my wife; being turned down; asking someone out; waiting for the doctor to call back; getting laid off; laying off people.
跟妻子提出要做爱；被拒绝；约某人出来；等待医生的答复；被裁员；裁掉别人–
This is the world we live in. We live in a vulnerable world. And one of the ways we deal with it is we numb vulnerability.
这就是我们生活的世界。我们活在一个脆弱的世界里。我们应对的方法之一是麻痹脆弱。
And I think there’s evidence — and it’s not the only reason this evidence exists,
我觉得这不是没有依据–这也不是依据存在的唯一理由，
but I think it’s a huge cause — We are the most in-debt … obese … addicted and medicated adult cohort in U.S. history.
我认为我们当代问题的一大部分都可以归咎于它–在美国历史上，我们是欠债最多，肥胖，毒瘾、用药最为严重的一代。
The problem is — and I learned this from the research — that you cannot selectively numb emotion.
问题是–我从研究中认识到–你无法选择性地麻痹感情。
You can’t say, here’s the bad stuff. Here’s vulnerability, here’s grief, here’s shame, here’s fear, here’s disappointment.
你不能说，这些是不好的。这是脆弱，这是悲哀，这是耻辱，这是恐惧，这是失望，
I don’t want to feel these. I’m going to have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin.
我不想要这些情感。我要去喝几瓶啤酒，吃个香蕉坚果松饼。
I don’t want to feel these. And I know that’s knowing laughter. I hack into your lives for a living. God.
我不想要这些情感。我知道台下传来的是会意的笑声。别忘了，我是靠“入侵”你们的生活过日子的。天哪。
演讲简介：
布琳.布朗致力于研究人与人的关系–我们感同身受的能力、获得归属感的能力、爱的能力。在TEDx休斯敦一次富有感染力的幽默谈话中，她跟我们分享了她的研究发现，一个让她更想深入了解自己以及人类的发现。