TED演讲之败中求胜 解读羞耻(1)
I’m going to tell you a little bit about my TEDxHouston Talk.
我要跟大家讲一点关于我TEDxHouston演讲的事。
I woke up the morning after I gave that talk with the worst vulnerability hangover of my life.
在演讲之后的那个早上，是我这辈子经历过最糟糕，最脆弱的宿醉。
And I actually didn’t leave my house for about three days.
而且我有三天都足不出户。
The first time I left was to meet a friend for lunch.
第一次出门是去见个朋友一起吃午饭。
And when I walked in, she was already at the table.
当我进去的时候，她已经在餐桌上了。
I sat down, and she said, “God, you look like hell.”
然后我坐下，然后她说： “天啊，你看起来真颓。”
I said, “Thanks. I feel really — I’m not functioning.”
我说：“谢谢啊，我觉得 — 我都不能正常思考了。”
And she said, “What’s going on?”
然后她说：“什么情况？”
And I said, “I just told 500 people that I became a researcher to avoid vulnerability.
然后我说：“我刚刚告诉了500个人，说我成为了一个避免脆弱的研究者。
And that when being vulnerable emerged from my data, as absolutely essential to whole-hearted living, I told these 500 people that I had a breakdown.
而当我的数据表明，保持脆弱是全心投入生活所不可或缺的基础时，我告诉这500个人，我崩溃了。
I had a slide that said ‘Breakdown.’ At what point did I think that was a good idea?”
我放了张幻灯片写着崩溃，我是搭了哪根弦会觉得这是个好点子呢？”
And she said, “I saw your talk live-streamed. It was not really you.
然后她说：“我看了你演讲的现场视频了，那不太像你。
It was a little different than what you usually do. But it was great.”
跟你平常有点不一样，不过真的很棒。”
And I said, “This can’t happen. YouTube, they’re putting this thing on YouTube. And we’re going to be talking about 600, 700 people.”
然后我说：“我得阻止这个上YouTube，他们要把这个放到YouTube上去。那就是600人，700人的事了。”
And she said, “Well, I think it’s too late.”
然后她说：“这样啊，我看来不及了。”
And I said, “Let me ask you something.”
于是我说：“问你一下。”
And she said, “Yeah.” I said, “Do you remember when we were in college, really wild and kind of dumb?”
她说：“好。”然后我说：“你还记得在大学时代特别疯特别傻的那时候吗？”
She said, “Yeah.” I said, “Remember when we’d leave a really bad message on our ex-boyfriend’s answering machine?
然后她说：“记得呀。” 于是我说：“还记得我们那时候，给前男友的答录机留了一段特别糟的话，
Then we’d have to break into his dorm room and then erase the tape?”
然后我们不得不撬开他宿舍的门， 然后把那段话抹掉的事吗？
演讲简介：羞耻感是一种不可言说的流行病，是许多支离破碎的行为背后的秘密。在早先关于脆弱的演讲得到病毒式的传播之后，布琳.布朗继续探寻当人们与羞耻感狭路相逢时会发生什么。言语间闪耀着她特有的幽默、人文关怀以及脆弱。