智慧人生篇章 (69)怜悯与正义的抉择

If a butterfly flutters its wings, so chaos theory goes, it can cause the path of a tornado to change, and so the reverberations can be felt across the world. 混沌学理论提到,如果一只蝴蝶煽动翅膀,卷风的路线会因其改变,全世界都将感觉到随之而来的影响。 In retrospect, it looks as if what was happening to the cost of food in the Middle East a few years ago had just that impact....

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诉苦谋求同情,认清需要区分爱与怜悯

某种言行能够反复出现,那一定有些东西,在滋养或支持它维持下去,比如当事人从中获益。获益不是单指物质上的好处,得到关注、安抚、关心、同情,都算是获益。这是案例中遭遇婚姻危机的老丁会反复向年轻姑娘诉苦的部分原因——相信他不会对着每一个人都自揭伤疤,若遇上只关注怎样直截了当解决问题的听众,多半也说不下去。所以,他有意无意地选择了阅历较少而又富有同情心的女孩子们。 当今社会,能在家庭里...

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