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And this is where my story starts. When I was a young researcher, doctoral student, 我的故事从这里开始。当我还是个年轻的博士研究生的时候， my first year, I had a research professor who said to us, “Here’s the thing, if you cannot measure it, it does not exist.” 第一年，有位研究教授对我们说：“事实是这样的，如果有一个东西你无法测量，那么它就不存在。...
And so then I went back into the research and spent the next couple of years really trying to understand what they, 然后我再度投入到了我的研究中，又花了几年时间， the whole-hearted, what choices they were making, and what we are doing with vulnerability. 真正试图去理解那些全身心投入生活的人，他们做了怎样的决定，他们是如何应对脆弱的。 Why do we struggle with it so much? Am I ...
And all you can think about is that opportunity for growth, right? 然后你满脑子都想着那一点成长的空间，不是么。 Well, apparently this is the way my work went as well, because, when you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak. 这也是我研究的一个方面，因为当你跟人们谈论爱情，他们告诉你的是一件让他们心碎的事。 When you ask people about belonging, they...
I was like, “Okay.” So I found a therapist. My first meeting with her, Diana — I brought in my list of the way the whole-hearted live, and I sat down. 就这样我找到了一个心理医生。我跟她，戴安娜的第一次见面–我带去了一份表单，上面都是那些全身心投入生活的人的生活方式，然后我坐下了。 And she said, “How are you?” And I said, “IR...
What do these people have in common? I have a slight office supply addiction, but that’s another talk. 这群人有什么共同之处？我对办公用品有点痴迷，但这是另一个话题了。 So I had a manila folder, and I had a Sharpie, and I was like, what am I going to call this research? 我有一个牛皮纸文件夹，还有一个三福极好笔，我心想，我该怎么给这项研究命名呢？ And the fir...
The other thing that they had in common was this: They fully embraced vulnerability. 他们还有另外一个共同之处，那就是，他们全然接受脆弱。 They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. 他们相信，让他们变得脆弱的东西，也让他们变得美丽。 They didn’t talk about vulnerability being comfortable, nor did they really talk about it being excruci...
You know this. So, I could tell you a lot about shame, but I’d have to borrow everyone else’s time. 你知道这个（结果）。我能告诉你关于耻辱的很多东西，但那样我就得占用别人的时间了。 But here’s what I can tell you that it boils down to — and this may be one of the most important things that I’ve ever learned in the decade of doing this rese...
You can’t numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects, our emotions. 你无法只麻痹那些痛苦的情感，而不麻痹所有的感官，所有的情感。 You cannot selectively numb. So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. 你无法有选择性地去麻痹。当我们麻痹那些（消极的情感），我们也麻痹了欢乐，麻痹了感恩，麻痹了幸福。 And then, we ...
And we perfect, most dangerously, our children. Let me tell you what we think about children. 我们想要让我们的孩子变得完美，这是最危险的。让我告诉你我们是如何看待孩子的。 They’re hardwired for struggle when they get here. And when you hold those perfect little babies in your hand, our job is not to say, “Look at her, she’s perfect. 从他们出生的那...
So, I’ll start with this: a couple years ago, an event planner called me because I was going to do a speaking event. 那我就这么开始吧：几年前，一个活动策划人打电话给我，因为我当时要做一个演讲。 And she called, and she said, “I’m really struggling with how to write about you on the little flyer.” 她在电话里说：“我真很苦恼该如何在宣传单上介绍...
小朋（化名）6日的第二次来电，令记者非常担心。为了消除小朋的烦恼情绪，记者再次耐心地对他进行疏导，鼓励他面对现实，快乐生活。7日下午5时许，记者数次致电小朋私下留给记者的小灵通手机，他都没有接听。正当记者焦急万分之际，小朋主动打电话到报社——— 自信，让小朋扬起快乐风帆 这次，小朋很有礼貌地说：“记者阿姨，您好。不好意思，我刚放学回家，只能现在给您回电话。&rdq...
『励志故事』阿施是我采访中认识的，地地道道的广东本地人。要说全中国还有哪个地方的女孩子还保留着古代女性温柔娴雅的本性，可能非广东莫属。阿施是货真价实的“靓女”,人生得高挑秀丽，我生完瓜瓜后，她来家探我，走之后我妈再三质疑：“你确定她真的是广东人？”在我妈心目中，广东人长相有返祖倾向，她完全想像不到，广东土着中还有这样的美女。 人一美就容易恃靓行凶，阿施却完全没有这样的倾向，她岂止...
充分认识自我隔离、无所作为和受到胁迫的弊端 以适应性的态度思考问题存在另一个重要方面，就是要对以下三种情况的弊端有清醒的认识：退缩不前（而不是全心投入）、无所作为（而不是尽力改变）、安于现状不思进取（而不是坚持从变化中汲取经验教训）。想一下你所认识的人中是否有人因为不可承受的压力被紧张的变化击垮。如果你仔细对比他们的行为和适应性较强的人们的做法，就发现显着的差异。如此一来，如...