TED演讲:性格的迷思–你究竟是谁(9)

It relates to your kid — you've been back three times to the hospital, 也许这事业跟孩子有关–你已经去医院三趟了, and they still don't know what's wrong. Or it could be your mom. 医生们还是查不出你孩子的病因。或者生病的是你母亲。 And you'd been acting out of character. These are free traits. 你会做一些跟你的性格不相符的事情。这些是可变的性格特点。 ...

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TED演讲:性格的迷思–你究竟是谁(8)

Now, as an introvert, I might gently allude to certain "assholic" qualities in this man's behavior, 作为一名内向者,我也许会委婉地暗示这个人的行为确实比较混蛋, but I'm not going to lunge for the a-word. 但我不会直接使用“混蛋”这个词。 But the extrovert says, "If he walks like one, if he talks like one, I call him one." 但外向者会说,“如果他表现得...

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TED演讲:性格的迷思–你究竟是谁(7)

I had a consulting contract I shared with a colleague who's as different from me as two people can possibly be. 我跟一名同事共同,负责一项咨询业务,我跟他是截然不同的两个人。 First, his name is Tom. Mine isn't. 首先,他叫汤姆。我不叫汤姆。 Secondly, he's six foot five. I have a tendency not to be. 其次,他身高1米96。我这辈子是不指望了。 And thirdly, he's as e...

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TED演讲:性格的迷思–你究竟是谁(6)

We communicate differently, extroverts and introverts. 外向者和内向者的交流方式有所不同。 Extroverts, when they interact, want to have lots of social encounter punctuated by closeness. 外向者在与人互动时喜欢肢体接触,喜欢亲近对方。 They'd like to stand close for comfortable communication. 他们喜欢靠近对方近距离交流。 They like to have a lot of eye contact, or mutual gaze...

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TED演讲:性格的迷思–你究竟是谁(10)

Sometimes we may find that we don't take care of ourselves. 有时候我们对自己太狠。 I find, for example, after a period of pseudo-extroverted behavior, 我发现自己在假装外向性格一段时间之后, I need to repair somewhere on my own. 我需要自己躲起来疗伤。 As Susan Cain said in her "Quiet" book, 就像苏珊·凯恩在《安静》这本书中所写, in a chapter that featured the str...

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